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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
(Hello)
Let me introduce our guests.
She's been showing us her happy married life...
with her husband who is...
- 18 years younger than her. - My gosh.
- It's Ham So Won. - Hello, everyone.
- I'm Ham So Won. - Nice to meet you.
Next is the charismatic rapper,
- Cheetah. - Cheetah!
- NC.A. - NC.A.
Hello.
It's Choi Bo Min and Y of Golden Child.
Y and Choi Bo Min.
- Welcome. - Welcome.
So Won is a wannabe for those who want to date younger men.
- You're right. - Yes.
Lee Sagan and Ron are...
- 11 years apart. - Yes.
Mi Na and Pil Rip are 17 years apart.
- And you guys are 18 years apart. - 18 years.
What month were you born in?
- April. - I see.
Then her husband was born when she was in 11th grade.
(It's a huge gap.)
- I'm just saying. - Okay.
- She was in 11th grade. - I see.
- I'm thankful he was born then. - Right.
- What if he was born later? - I know.
I wonder when my soulmate will be born.
Do you think he's even born?
I'm sure he's somewhere.
What use is it if he's born once I'm gone?
- Please show yourself. - Yes.
- You love each other so dearly. - We do.
Do you plan to have more children?
Of course. Now that we have a daughter, I want a son.
- Do you have a son? - He does.
- You do, right? - Yes, I do.
- How did you have a son? - What?
- Because... - I wasn't the one who gave birth.
- I'm the most curious about that. - Goodness.
I ask those around me about how they got their sons.
- I want a son. - How did I have a son?
Yes, how?
- It's... - Do you really want me...
to tell you in detail?
There are many different ways.
(You won't be able to handle it.)
So Won...
married a younger man. How about your boyfriend, Cheetah?
He's eight years older than me.
Is he younger than you?
- No. He's older than me. - Is he older than you?
- I see. - Tell us good things about him.
Alcohol tastes sweet when I drink with him.
And I get drunk quickly as if I'm drunk in him.
- You get drunk so quickly. - That's right.
I get drunk after only two bottles of soju.
How much do you usually drink? Two bottles are enough.
Well...
There are pros and cons for dating publicly.
NC.A, do you have any intention to date publicly?
I don't think I can do that.
- I see. - I'm afraid to do it.
I don't think I can date publicly either.
She's never been seen dating a man for the past few decades.
Isn't she amazing?
(Safety zone for secret romance)
I always make sure no one finds out.
- That's unbelievable. - Right.
Y and Bo Min,
- this is your first time here. - Yes.
Do you have any worries?
My group members tease me for being half 50.
- Half 50? - Yes.
- It means he's 25 years old. - I see.
We call a 50-year-old person half 100.
- So half 50 is 25. - They tease me a lot.
I'm a lot younger than my group members,
so there are many things I can't relate to...
- when we have a chat. - When you chat with Y?
I didn't know kungkungta game, for example.
- I learned from them... - I used to play that game.
- how to play the game. - You know this game, right?
- That's why they tease you. - That's right.
- My goodness. - Yes.
Try and tease me for being 50.
(He clenched his teeth.)
(I won't tease him anymore.)
NC.A is going to release a new album soon.
Could you please sing for us just a little bit?
(Shall we listen to her new song?)
("Awesome Breeze" by NC.A)
(Like the night breeze that comforts you)
(Swaying)
(Her beautiful voice brushes against our ears.)
- That was so sweet. - She has such a pretty voice.
Thank you.
Today, we have three stories as always.
Show us the keywords please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
"Is This a New Pubertal Trend?"
"The Hot-Tempered Man".
"I Want To Be Acknowledged".
"Is This a New Pubertal Trend?"
Hello. I'm a mom of a 16-year-old boy in my 30s.
Every mom with a child around my son's age gets stressed out...
since their children go through puberty.
However, my son...
"Son, what do you want to eat? Choose anything."
"Mom, I'll eat whatever you choose."
"Son, aren't you craving anything?"
"I wouldn't mind eating anything you want to eat."
I've never heard of a teenager like him.
He never talks back or says no to me.
You think I'm lucky?
I'm actually frustrated so much.
"Son, you should get your hair trimmed."
"Yes, Mom. I'll have a new hair cut just as you want."
He's a little weird.
- He doesn't sound like a teenager. - It's odd, right?
He's so weird.
"You look neat. Son, do you like your new hair cut?"
"Yes, Mom. I like it."
My son, who said he liked his new hair cut,
wore a hat until his hair grew back.
He didn't like it.
"Son, you should go to sleep now."
"Yes, Mom." "Did you take a shower?"
"Yes, Mom."
"What? You stink."
"I think you didn't take a shower."
"Didn't I? I'll take a shower now."
(He blindly says yes, and that frustrates his mom.)
He never says no.
- That can be frustrating. - What's going on?
I don't know if he listens to me or ignores me.
Whenever I talk to my son, he frustrates me so much.
I want to know what he really feels.
She must be frustrated.
(Son, tell me how you really feel.)
This is a whole new kind of teenage behavior.
- It's a new kind. - Right.
- It's a whole new kind. - What's happening to him?
I rebelled against my parents when I was a teenager.
- Most teenagers do that. - I rebelled against them.
If they told me to come home, I refused it.
- That's right. - I refused to go to school too.
- Most teenagers do that. - Right.
Dong Yeob, how did you act during puberty?
I personally want to know that.
- I hit puberty when I was eight. - That was early.
- At eight? - You hit puberty so early.
- I did something wrong. - At the age of eight?
My mom picked up a broom to spank me, so I ran.
There were traditional houses in my neighborhood,
so I ran through the narrow alleyways.
My mom got tired, and I was way ahead of her.
I said, "You can't even catch me when you're 38 and I'm only 8."
(The daring 8-year-old boy)
(I was spanked with the broom.)
I was spanked so much.
She couldn't catch you when she was 38.
Then I won't be able to catch my daughter when she's eight.
- Of course. - Right.
You'll be 50 when your daughter turns 8, right?
- Yes. - Although she's just a child...
- Don't say such a sad thing. - "You're 50 but can't catch me."
"I'm sorry, Mom."
(Don't worry. Your daughter will know.)
Now let's meet with the mom.
- Please come out. - Please come out.
(Who is worried about her son's unusual behaviors?)
(Heo Ji Young)
(She's wearing a mask?)
(She gives off a charismatic vibe.)
Hold her hands.
I thought she was his elder sister, not his mom.
She's wearing hip-hop style clothes.
- She's very fashionable. - Yes.
She's really fashionable.
I think you're the first guest on Hello...
to wear a mask.
May I ask why?
Actually, I am a single mom.
I see.
Since I've been busy working and I couldn't...
take good care of myself after giving birth.
- I got gum disease. - My goodness.
I'm in the process of removing all my teeth...
and getting implants.
- You're getting treatment. - Yes.
When I read your letter,
everyone said it's an unusual case.
We thought that maybe he's considerate of you, his mom.
He never says anything to me.
Whenever I talk to him,
he blindly says yes.
- He doesn't mean it. - I see.
I went on a business trip with my son.
He was with me while I was working.
He seemed upset.
So I asked what was wrong,
but he said he was fine.
A while later, he still seemed upset.
So I asked if he was upset at me or anything else.
He finally said his stomach was hurting.
I asked him why he didn't tell me earlier.
He said, "It slipped my mind."
- He always acts like that. - I can see what he's like.
It'd be better if he told me what he wants...
or what he doesn't like just like other kids.
He's like a robot.
How should I put it? He's my son,
- but he doesn't feel like one. - He doesn't feel like your son.
- Is it that bad? - That's how I feel.
Does he not ask you to buy him things...
- he needs? - Some things he needs.
He doesn't. Even when I ask him what he needs,
he says he needs nothing.
But he comes to me and says, "Mom, I saw..."
"my friends playing with this."
"They said it's popular these days."
He beats around the bush like this.
If I ask him if he wants it,
- he says, "No. I was just saying." - I see.
- That's all he says. - I think...
- that means he wants it. - What does he mean?
- "But it's popular these days." - He means he wants it.
Has he always been like that since he was a child?
- Is that his personality? - No.
When he was a child,
once he saw something he wanted, he asked me to buy it for him.
- "Mom, buy me this." - He wasn't like that as a child?
No, he was different when he was a little child.
Did he change when he began puberty?
No, it wasn't like that. When I...
After I got divorced,
I had financial difficulty.
When he was in second grade...
- When he was 9? - When he was in 2nd grade,
I sent him to my ex-husband.
My ex-husband was single when I sent my son to him.
But he got remarried.
While living in a new environment...
with a stranger,
I think he got used to living without sharing his thoughts.
- Living with them. - Then does your ex-husband...
have other kids between him and his new wife?
I didn't know that,
but my son told me when I asked him...
that there were other children in that family.
When I heard that,
I tried everything I could to bring him back.
So it's been almost four years...
- since you brought him back. - Yes.
But still...
He said he would change,
- but he acted the same. - Nothing changed.
I tried to convince him in tears and got angry at him.
I tried to persuade him nicely and even threatened him.
(Even threatening him didn't work.)
Your son could be the one...
- who suffered the most. - That's possible.
Let's meet with her son.
Hello.
- Speak to the mic, please. - Hello.
By any chance, did you decide to come on the show...
because of your mother even though you didn't want to?
No, that's not the reason. I decided to come here...
because I thought I should fix the problem once and for all.
- Fix what problem? - What do you mean by that?
That I don't tell my mom how I really feel.
- So I guess you want to change. - Yes.
Why do you think it's hard for you to tell her how you feel?
Even when I try to tell her, I can't get myself to do it.
I don't know how to tell her either.
Teenagers at your age always crave something to eat.
It wouldn't be that hard to say.
I don't have much appetite.
- He doesn't have much appetite. - I don't usually crave food.
- Ma'am, he has no appetite. - I see.
However, you don't look like...
someone who has no appetite.
(Her son is cute.)
- But when you... - When you're not feeling well,
you tell your mother, right?
I don't tell her if it's bearable.
I tell her when it gets unbearable.
He endures the pain...
- until it gets unbearable. - He tells when it gets unbearable.
- That's when he tells his mother. - You might fall ill.
It seems that you haven't always been like that.
When did your personality change?
While I was living with my dad...
My stepmother has two children.
Since I had to take care of them, I became quiet...
and came to stop telling how I feel.
Did you tell your mother what you liked or not...
before you lived with your father?
Yes, when I was a little child,
I always told my mom what I wanted to do or have.
I think I changed while living with my dad.
(It must have been hard.)
You said you took care of your younger siblings.
They are 1 and 4 years younger than me.
- I see. - They're younger than you.
Could you be more specific about your life back then?
I fixed them meals, washed dishes,
cleaned the house, made snacks for them,
- and did some other house chores. - He was only nine.
Also, I went out to buy some food for my dad and stepmom...
to eat when they drank at night.
Oh, my.
He was so young. He must have sometimes...
- made mistakes. - Of course.
Did you get scolded when you made mistakes?
When the kids told on me,
I got scolded.
They told on you?
"He didn't make fried eggs for us." Like that?
They were both boys.
Why are you so self-centered?
Hold on. I mean... Ma'am.
How can you talk back to me?
How can you say that to me?
What happened when they told on you?
I got beaten or...
(My goodness.)
I got scolded.
But compared to back then,
no one is forcing you...
to do anything right now.
I've tried to change,
but it's not that easy.
You've been looking for an opportunity.
If you look at the way he smiles and talks,
it seems like he is aware of his problem...
and is trying to change.
He talks like that,
but at home, he never seems to change.
He tells small lies all the time.
- Almost habitually. - For example?
For example, when he was in elementary school,
he wanted a bike, so I bought him one.
But at some point, he stopped using it.
When I went to check the bike,
I found out that the front wheel was broken.
He said, "It's not my fault. My friend borrowed it from me..."
"and broke it."
- So I went to his friend's place... - You confronted him.
and talked to his mom.
And the friend denied it.
- Really? - He said he didn't do it.
In the end, it turned out...
that my son broke it...
and lied to me because he didn't want to get scolded.
I went to his friend's place and made a fool of myself.
I felt so embarrassed.
Of course. It must have been embarrassing.
Something else happened too,
but I'm not sure if it's okay to talk about it in front of everyone.
Let's ask him. Should she talk about it or not?
You know what she's going to talk about, right?
- Yes. It's okay. - It's okay?
Are you sure? Are you just saying that?
I'm really okay.
I'm a bit worried.
He...
stole my money.
That's no big deal.
All kids do that.
But the amount was...
6,000 dollars.
- Oh, my. - That much?
That's a lot.
I stole some money as a kid too, but...
- At once? - No, not at once.
- It wasn't at once. - I was so shocked.
It's the amount he stole over a year.
Over a year.
At first, I didn't notice.
But when he stole too much at once,
he got caught.
About 1,000 dollars...
- disappeared at once. - My goodness.
(How could a middle school student do that?)
What did he do with that money?
- He spent it while playing games. - While playing games.
- He played games. - He bought in-game items.
He also bought things for his friends.
- For his friends? - Yes.
When your mom asked you...
if you needed money, why didn't you say so?
Why did you steal?
I usually spend money on games.
- You didn't want to get scolded. - I couldn't tell her...
When you were living with your dad,
how did you get the money?
I asked him, but he never gave me much money.
That's when I started...
stealing money.
- So... - That's when you started?
Yes.
His dad didn't give him much money.
He didn't at that time.
He only gave me money for school supplies.
We have to understand him.
At first, he really needed school supplies.
He only took money needed for school supplies.
But then things progressed, right?
- "Progressed"? - That's right.
Is "progress" really the right word?
The thing you're most worried about must be...
if your son would behave the same way...
- outside too. - Yes.
How is his reputation?
When he is alone with me,
he never swears.
But when he is with his friends,
he swears a bit.
- With his friends? - Yes.
When they eat or something...
One day, I got a call from his teacher.
I told the teacher, "My son swears too much."
"Can you pay more attention..."
"to the way the kids speak?"
"They swear too much."
The teacher said, "Your son swears..."
"more than any other kid."
(I see.)
I didn't know what to say.
It sounds like...
you're not that afraid...
of getting in trouble...
with other people.
Are you more afraid of...
getting in trouble with your mom?
- Yes. - Why?
It's because...
Mom sent me away...
because we often had arguments,
and I didn't keep my promises.
Mom told me, "Because you didn't keep your promises,"
"I'm sending you to Dad as promised."
So I'm scared of being sent away again.
That's why you keep telling lies to avoid conflict.
Yes.
(Mom didn't know why he was lying.)
(He wanted to stay with his mom.)
But ma'am,
you said you sent him away because of financial difficulties.
Did you tell him that when you sent him away?
I couldn't tell him...
I was sending him away...
because I was struggling financially.
It wouldn't explain everything.
I came up with that excuse...
for myself...
- To feel better about it? - Because you felt bad.
Yes. I put the blame on him...
- Exactly. - in a sense.
And he was traumatized by it.
When you heard that,
how did you feel?
It felt like my whole world fell apart.
I didn't like Dad,
so I didn't stop Mom from divorcing him.
But now I had to go back to him.
I hated it.
(He didn't want to go to his dad.)
At nine, you're like a sponge.
You're like a blank sheet of paper.
You should have been honest with him.
"Our situation is like this."
"I'll save up money and come get you in a few years."
"I love you so much."
You should have said that.
But you said, "You're being sent away because you've been bad."
It must have been a shock for him.
When you get upset,
do you tend to say harsh things like me?
I tell him, "If you don't change,"
"we don't know what might happen to us."
(It's almost like a threat.)
(Isn't that too much?)
You keep making him feel anxious.
(She reminds him of his trauma.)
I don't want people to notice...
- he grew up in this environment. - Right.
I don't want to be humiliated by anyone.
That's why...
I'm sometimes so harsh with him.
Have you ever...
trusted your son completely and let him do what he wants to do?
He didn't like studying.
So I decided to...
find him another way.
He recently quit school...
and took school qualification exams instead.
- He did? - Yes.
Is that what you wanted?
At first,
I still wanted to go to school.
Even if I didn't study hard, I wanted to meet my friends.
But Mom thought...
I should drop out of school if I wasn't going to study.
She persuaded me.
So it was your mom's decision?
When exactly did you quit school?
Right before eighth grade.
You passed the qualification exams right away?
- Yes. - I see.
Are you sure you're not lying?
I'm not lying.
Which level?
I passed high school qualification exams too.
- Wow. - High school?
Let's give him a big hand.
(Applause)
You must have studied hard.
You're the best at both studying and swearing!
(He's the best at both studying and swearing.)
Your son didn't insist...
he drop out of school...
and find another dream?
It was your idea...
that he shouldn't go to school if he wasn't going to study hard?
- Yes. - He should study at home...
It was your idea?
"If you're going to fulfill your duty as a student,"
"the school would help you."
"But if not,"
"find another way as soon as possible."
That's what happened.
But even if you don't study hard,
the school helps you become a member of society.
Don't you think the decision was too extreme?
As a single mom,
I wanted him to grow up fast.
(She feels a bit impatient.)
I...
About exactly a year ago,
I almost died.
- What? - What happened?
(I almost died.)
I was often on business trips.
And I got in a car accident almost every month...
even though I didn't cause them.
I had a concussion and everything.
But I couldn't stop working and making money.
As a result,
my intestines ruptured in three places at the same time.
- Your intestines ruptured? - Your intestines ruptured?
Yes.
Without emergency surgery,
- I might have died. - Of course.
After that,
I became worried about when my son is left alone.
I want him...
to find his way as soon as possible.
I want him to be independent.
I can't stop...
thinking about those things.
(She can't stop worrying about her son.)
Did you know that your mother was thinking this way?
My mom always says to me,
"I can die at any time."
(I can die at any time.)
"So don't you think you should find something you can do?"
(Don't you think you should find something you can do before that?)
How does it make you feel?
Does it motivate you to start making money...
so you can become financially independent?
It makes me think I should work part-time, at least.
But since there's nothing I'm good at right now,
I don't know what to start with.
It's only natural...
- at your age. - That's right.
I have a lot going on in my mind.
- Do you? - Yes.
(He must be stressed out so much.)
(I'm worried about him.)
Ma'am, what about your son...
makes you worry the most?
His habits make me worry.
He lies to me too often.
He lacks a sense of responsibility.
I hate to say this,
but he's becoming...
like my ex-husband.
I hope he won't grow up into a man like his dad.
- But he seems like... - No way.
he's becoming like his dad.
That's what worries me the most.
Have you ever said things like this directly to your son as well?
Yes.
(It must've hurt his feelings.)
You shouldn't have.
(How could she say such a thing to her son?)
Whenever he breaks my trust,
- I end up saying that to him... - Unintentionally?
even though I don't want to.
It's because I want to fix the problem...
as soon as possible.
- You feel impatient. - That's right.
(She feels impatient because she wants him to fix his bad habits.)
How do you feel when your mother says such things?
I feel frustrated.
I didn't want it,
but she said that I was becoming like him.
Does it make you think that you could be separated from her again?
Of course. I was separated from her because I misbehaved in the past.
So I think she can send me away again.
- That's not why she sent you away. - It wasn't because you misbehaved.
To be honest, you're the one who had the most influence...
on him...
as he formed those habits you're worried about.
That's right.
"I'll send you back to your dad..."
"because you don't listen to me and never keep your promises."
He was actually sent away as a child.
He had no choice but to lie.
(He lied to survive.)
If you tell him that he's becoming like his dad,
your son will only be afraid...
he might be separated from you...
once again.
It only has negative effects on him.
(He's right.)
Ma'am, from what I heard so far,
I think your son has no problem.
I think you're the one who causes a problem.
You seem to feel deeply ashamed of...
the situation you're under.
You talk as if it's absolutely shameful...
for a woman to raise her child alone.
(Is raising your child alone something to hide?)
I want you to become more confident.
Also, there's no child like him.
He passed the exam on the first try.
He does everything you tell him to do except for one thing.
You didn't teach him how to express...
his opinions.
You never asked.
You just forced your opinions on him.
He has never expressed his opinions...
for the past 16 years of his life.
(Your son has never expressed his opinions his entire life.)
I want to tell you something.
You must trust your mother completely.
Your mother is on your side no matter what.
You have to believe that.
Whatever wrong things you do, she'll always be on your side.
(Now you should show her your trust.)
Ma'am, how about you tell your son that it wasn't his fault...
right here in front of everyone?
I think that'll help.
I'm sorry for making unreasonable excuses.
I did that because I was too distressed back then.
(She tells him honestly.)
I can't dare to ask you to understand me right now.
But I hope you realize when you grow up...
how hard I worked to raise you.
Tell her how you really feel.
Say just one thing you want her to stop doing.
- Don't say that I'm like my dad. - Right.
(Please don't say that I'm like my dad again.)
Let's start with Cheetah.
- Do you think it's a worry? - I think it's a worry.
I think it's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
They love each other,
but they're having a hard time because of what they said...
and misunderstandings. It breaks my heart.
I believe they can improve their relationship...
by changing the way they express how they feel.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
(Please send us your worries about yourself, family, and friends.)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
I wonder how many votes she got. Please show us the result.
How many votes did she get...
(The result)
Out of 200 votes?
- It's over 100. - Oh, my.
(How many people empathized with her son?)
"Is This a New Pubertal Trend?" What could be the result?
- 137 votes. - 137 votes.
(137 votes)
"The Hot-Tempered Man".
I need someone to play a customer. Can you do it for me?
- Sure. - She's a rude customer.
- A rude customer? - Yes.
At a bar.
The customer hasn't come in.
(Please don't do it yet.)
- She'll come in shortly. - Okay.
Hello. I'm a pretty girl in my 20s,
and I work at a bar.
My heart beats so fast whenever I'm working.
The customer says...
"Hey, bring me some kimchi."
"I'm sorry, ma'am."
"We don't serve kimchi."
"Then bring me kimchi for the staff instead."
"I want to talk to the owner."
My boss comes out.
"All right. I'm here."
"I'm the owner of this bar. What's your problem?"
"Why would you ask for something we don't have?"
"Hey, call the police."
I'm worried because of my boss who often argues with our customers.
- The customer says... - "Are you done? You little..."
"This is ridiculous."
- "Finish what you were saying." - "You little..."
"Just hit him. Go ahead. Hit me."
I know that the customer was being unreasonable,
but my boss never holds back.
Whenever he ruins the atmosphere in the bar,
I'm the one who always deals with the situation.
The reason I can't ignore his problem...
is that my boss...
is my boyfriend whom I love.
- He was her boyfriend. - I see.
"Sweetheart, there are many other customers here."
"Can't you just let it go?"
"Hey. Why should I be nice to people like them?"
"And who is the owner of this bar? I am."
"So mind your own business."
Please help my boss,
I mean, my boyfriend, control his temper.
That's all.
Cheetah, what do you think about this story?
The customer was rude, though.
(It was unforgivable.)
The customer was?
You know how they say,
"The customer is always right."
- People believed it was right. - That's right.
However, some people misinterpret that phrase.
As they walk into a restaurant, they say,
- "What's the best dish here?" - Right.
- That's right. - But the staff...
can't just speak as rudely as the customer talked.
That's right.
So we should...
I wish they could speak rudely to the customers...
- who speak rudely to them. - Me too.
- Right. - "Hey, bring me some kimchi."
"We don't have any."
He looks so cheeky.
Let's meet with our guest.
- Please come out. - Please come out.
(Who is worried about her boyfriend who always fights with customers?)
(Kim Hye Rim)
First of all,
how long have you been working with your boyfriend?
- Please tell us. - It's been five years.
And we've been dating for six years.
We met for the first time when I was working part-time at a restaurant,
and he was the manager.
He seemed really nice back then,
and he never argued with any customers.
But after he opened his own bar,
his personality changed. He became prickly.
Did he become hot-tempered after he became a bar owner?
(He has changed.)
We meet rude customers very often at the bar.
It's not allowed to smoke...
- inside a building or a bar. - It's illegal now.
Smoking is not allowed.
But some customers still smoke in the hallway.
"If it was okay to smoke wherever you want,"
"why would I have made the smoking room?"
He says things like this to them. He's ended up fighting with them.
- He just started yelling... - Isn't it normal for him...
to point out the customer's wrong behavior in some cases?
- He should stop the customers. - I know.
But as the owner, he should know...
how to hold back his anger and control his temper.
But he always overreact...
- to the customers' behaviors. - Can you give us an example?
Some customers speak casually to us when they order.
"Bring me a bottle of soju."
Then my boyfriend says, "You mean, this?"
(He talks casually to the customer as well.)
- "You mean, this?" - Your boyfriend does?
"You mean, this? Okay. I'll bring it to you."
- My goodness. - Also,
there are times when some customers provoke other customers...
and end up having a fight.
My boyfriend should stop them.
But he fights with them instead.
(The owner makes it worse.)
- But that's... - He must be short-tempered.
That's baffling.
How do you and the other employees...
- deal with the situation? - Exactly.
When he enters the kitchen...
after the fight,
there's still tension in the air.
- Of course. - That's right.
Then we have to deal with the situation.
- How? - We give our customers free food...
- or at least a beverage. - Of course.
Some customers complain to us...
- about what happened. - That's understandable.
- "What's wrong with this bar?" - People also post videos...
- and reviews on social media. - That's right. We suffer damage.
Did you try to convince your boyfriend many times?
"You must fix this. It makes your customers upset."
I talked to him about it a lot.
But he actually got mad at me.
He got mad at you? What did he say?
"Why do I have to..."
- Why are you mad? - Why...
Why are you mad?
Why did he get mad at his girlfriend?
"Why do I have to be nice to such customers?"
"Why do I have to treat them nicely?"
And we end up getting into a fight.
- You get into a fight. - While talking about it,
we end up getting into a fight.
We are considering to get married,
and we have to keep running the restaurant together.
- I want him to relax a little. - Yes.
Did you promise to get married?
We are not engaged, but we are considering it.
(I see.)
Let's meet him...
- and talk to him. - Right.
I will use honorifics.
- If we don't, he might say, - He will get upset.
- "What is it? I'm here." - He will get upset right away.
Where are you, sir?
Hello.
Hello. I will try to speak without using the honorifics.
Where are you, Owner?
Here.
I am sorry.
You just heard about your girlfriend's concern.
What do you think? Can you sympathize with her?
Actually, it's more of a concern for me.
I want the restaurant to run smoothly from start to end...
without any problems.
But because it's a bar, we always get reasonable customers.
Always having to deal with them...
is troubling me, so it's more of a concern for me.
- You are struggling more than her. - Yes. Much more.
But don't you think the way you deal with them...
too wasteful? You deal with every single problem.
Shouldn't there be specific criteria?
I have my own criteria.
After 5 to 6 years of running the business,
I can tell if the customer is going to be reasonable or not.
- You can tell. - Yes.
You can tell as soon as they enter?
I can tell.
Can you tell us about your criteria?
- I'm curious about his criteria. - What are some types?
Tell us about three types.
What made you think that they are going to be unreasonable?
How should they walk in?
First of all, in the case of men,
there is always the man who comes in last, with his head held high.
He's the last to come in in the group.
"Go in. Go in. Just sit anywhere."
There are men like that.
70 to 80 percent of the time, he is unreasonable.
Why? Why?
- In case of women... - There are women too.
They come with their friends.
As soon as they enter, they say, "Why is it so dark in here?"
They whine.
People like that start complaining when they sit down.
90 percent of them turn out to be unreasonable.
- 90 percent. - 90 percent.
Sometimes 100 percent.
Can you tell us about one more type?
- It's fun. - Right.
The ones you have to be the most careful with are the drunk ones...
who say,"Bring me soju" as soon as they enter.
90 to 100 percent of them turn out to be unreasonable.
They are already drunk, but they want to drink more.
- Yes. - They are most likely to be drunk.
When a customer talks rudely, you reply rudely.
Can you tell us how you do it?
"Soju. Soju."
"What? Soju?" That's what I do.
(He replies rudely.)
"Whelk."
"Whelk? Wait. Do we have whelk today?"
- I ask the kitchen staff. - You do that?
Why don't you make your bar "Rude Bar"?
(Why doesn't he make it the concept of his bar?)
- "Talk Informally Bar". - "Talk Informally Bar".
This is what your girlfriend is saying.
Before you became the owner, you didn't have this personality.
She said you become aggressive when you became the owner.
- She said that. - When you became the owner.
When you work at another person's company, you have a boss, the owner.
Since you are just an employee,
if you cause a problem, the owner gets affected.
And it can have a ripple effect.
When I became the owner, I really hated that.
I hated that culture.
I didn't like that we always have to bow down to customers.
I hated it so much.
So I adopted the belief that customers have to have manners.
We have to provide them the service that's good enough.
I don't think we have to beg to them...
and apologize all the time.
That's how I changed when I became the owner.
All right, then. When the customers are fighting,
as the owner, you are responsible to stop them.
Don't you think it's not right to fight with them?
- Isn't that going over the line? - Right.
How did you get involved in the fight?
I don't want to fight either.
As you can tell, I'm not the type who fights well.
But when customers fight...
Korean men usually just get up and shout at each other.
"What? What?"
And they just move their shoulders.
(They just move their shoulders.)
They don't actually fight.
"Hey!"
- "Gosh." - Right.
- Yes. - "You little..."
They can just stop.
But they just keep going, even when everyone's looking.
They just fight among themselves.
I have to mediate, you know. So I go and tell them.
"If you are going to fight, pay and fight outside."
So they would leave. When they fight outside,
my attitude changes...
since they are outside the bar.
"You are too loud. Just go home." That's what I say.
- You say something unnecessary. - Yes.
I do that. It's also because I am worried about the neighbors.
If you fight...
or if you go into the kitchen without settling the issue,
your girlfriend and your staffs...
are put in an awkward situation.
I do that because when I am upset,
I can't talk to other customers...
with a smile.
- You are already upset. - When you suddenly change,
people might think you are a bipolar person.
I might look strange.
- I... - Have you...
tried things to not lose your temper?
I always think I shouldn't lose my temper.
It works when I manage to think it through.
But it just comes out through my mouth.
I just kept doing that,
and now it's become a habit.
- Now... - A habit.
Habit is scary.
When that keeps happening,
doesn't it affect your sales?
I think our sales went down by nearly 20 percent.
- It went down by 20 percent. - That's a big number.
On our social network account,
people leave comments that the owner is not kind.
I always check their account...
and see who wrote the mean comment.
- He's thorough. - He checks the photos.
I remember the unreasonable customers.
The ones who leave mean comments...
are always those who had a fight with me.
So I don't care much about the comments.
- But... - Your sales dropped by 20 percent.
I don't think the sales dropped...
because of the unreasonable customers.
Our bar is near a college campus. So it could just be an exam week.
Or people could've been disappointed with our food.
I don't think the unreasonable customers are the problems.
- You... - It's a different problem.
(He's very firm.)
Even outside the bar, can you not pass it...
when you see injustice?
When I see something wrong, I have to do something about it.
And when someone does me wrong, I need to get an apology.
- Right. - In the past,
someone parked in the one-way street.
- There was no phone number. - That's upsetting.
- That's really upsetting. - That's annoying.
I yelled for 20 to 30 minutes in that town.
I looked for the owner of that car.
About 30 minutes later,
a lady walked towards the car with a cup of tteokbokki.
- After 30 minutes. - Yes. She got on the car.
So I went to her and told her.
"How can you park here?"
(He yelled at her.)
She got off the car, threw the cup,
and said, "What have I done wrong? It was just for a short time."
"What's wrong with that?"
She yelled at me.
(She yelled at him.)
- So what did you do? - I called the police.
- You called the police again. - Yes.
- You can't let it pass. - What happened?
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She said, "What have I done wrong? It was just for a short time."
"What's wrong with that?"
I called the police.
- You called the police again. - Yes.
- That's when it began. - Yes.
- You depend on them. - Is there a regular officer?
A regular officer.
- He calls the police too often. - He can't let it pass...
- What happened? - when he sees injustice.
She ended up apologizing to me.
But I was still upset. So as I was leaving, I said,
"Why can't you drive better? Why do you even bother driving?"
I feel better only when I vent out with some curse words.
- Only then you feel better? - Yes.
Are you like that even in the restaurants?
Yes. There are some people who are rude to restaurant staffs.
They shout and ask them to bring things to them.
When kids run around, I say, "What are their parents doing?"
I make sure they hear it.
That might cause a problem.
But it's not my restaurant.
If it was my restaurant, I would go up to them.
(He's a scary man.)
I think she would be...
- too anxious being next to him. - Right.
She must worry that he might get into a fight.
It looks like he's going to get into a physical fight,
but like what he said, he just does this.
Only his shoulders move forward.
- That's good. - By the way,
- That's a relief. - We heard from your boyfriend,
it seems like he's got a firm standard.
He's not the type who starts a fight first.
But it always affects me.
He always vents his anger to me.
That's bad.
He does that. When I have a drink and put it on a table,
he yells at me. "Why don't you clean it up right away?"
He nitpicks at me.
Does he not vent out his anger to other employees?
He only does it to me.
- That's why... - Why?
I asked him why he only does that to me.
He says he can't show who he is to the others because...
they are strangers to him.
He shows his true side to me because we will be together forever.
He says that's why he doesn't hide himself to me.
He says he feels too comfortable with me.
- Hearing it makes me feel bad. - You do.
Shouldn't you be nicer...
- He should be more considerate. - to her for all the more reasons?
Right.
I don't vent out my anger to her.
I am agitated, you know. Being in that state,
I look around my shop.
And I see things that are not done.
So I simply tell her to fix it.
That's venting out anger.
I think it's something you can do.
- You can just do it yourself. - You have to set an example.
- Right. - It's better for the business.
Are you not doing it because you're the owner?
When he does that, look at him in the eyes.
And tell him, "Don't think that I will always be beside you."
Tell him that.
(Love like Cheetah. She's the best.)
(I will remember that.)
Does your boyfriend...
have a perfectionist tendency?
No. He doesn't.
That's not it.
He's nothing like that.
When a customer calls, you should go to the customer.
But he's busy looking at his phone. He doesn't look at the customer.
- He just sits. - He's just upset.
As the owner, I can just sit and use my phone.
- "As the owner". - Since you are the owner.
That's not why you became the owner though.
There are many other things I need to do for the shop.
I have to work on the menu board.
I do all the paperwork for tax.
I want her to know...
about the work I do.
I never rest. I'm always at the shop.
Even when I am absent for a few days,
I want my staffs and my girlfriend to be able to handle the shop.
- Even the unreasonable customers. - Yes.
- I want them to support me. - That's what you want from her.
Yes.
You want her to kick out and fight the unreasonable customers.
Even if my girlfriend treats those customers...
the same way I do, I wouldn't mind it that much.
(You want her to fight the same way you do?)
(Why aren't you worried about me?)
To find out more, we brought in...
some of their colleagues.
How long have you been working with them?
I've been working with them for about a year.
- That's a long time. - Yes.
I am in charge of cooking.
As an employee, what do you think of the owner?
As an employee, I find him very easy-going.
There are some young customers...
who try not to show him their IDs.
That's dangerous.
Whenever that happens, he resolves the situation. I like that.
But when he fights the customers in the dining hall...
and comes into the kitchen,
- it's unbearable. - It's unbearable.
It's unbearable. What does he do?
Do tell us. What happens?
- He points at every single problem. - He complains.
Things have been always the same, but he would say,
"Why does it taste like this? Why is this here?"
"Why didn't you clean this?"
He does that, and we feel flustered.
Can you tell that he has...
an unusually high standard for his girlfriend?
When a customer presses the bell,
he could go to the customer.
"What are you doing? Someone just pressed the bell."
(He yells at his girlfriend.)
(You do your job.)
"Come on. He's waiting."
(How can he talk to her like that?)
He's the owner, isn't he?
After the fight, we ate together.
He must've been still upset.
(He was still upset.)
"Don't eat if you are going to do that."
(Don't do that if you are going to do that.)
Put your chopsticks down.
- That's so mean. - In the middle of a meal?
- He's just an angry person. - That's the worst thing to do.
(Even when she eats, she gets anxious.)
It must be very tough for your girlfriend.
You say you treat her that way because you'll be together for life.
Instead of just establishing your authority as the owner,
why don't you treat your girlfriend like the owner's wife?
Or you should actually get married...
and actually run it together.
- She's your staff and girlfriend. - It's too vague.
- Right. - I think...
there are too many ways she can get hurt.
In the shop, he always reminds me who's the boss.
He tells me, "You are an employee. I am the owner."
He sometimes talks to me in a condescending way.
(He sometimes talks to me in a condescending way.)
Right.
These days, you have to treat your staffs nicely.
"Do you not want to work? Then you should just go home."
He said it a couple of times, so I went home one day.
He didn't call me for 3 to 4 days.
(He didn't call her for 3 to 4 days.)
He didn't call me, so I had to go to the shop first.
The work was too tough, so I quit.
I worked somewhere else for about six months.
But he was short-staffed, so I had to go back.
- He asked for help. - Yes.
When you were working in another place,
did you have a normal relationship?
We didn't fight much then.
Working in the same restaurant is the problem.
I am hot-tempered, but I don't just talk like that to my girlfriend.
I talk to all my staffs like that.
"Hey. Gosh. How many times do I have to tell you?"
"How many times do I have to teach you?"
I keep talking that way.
I treat my staffs the same way.
(When he's upset, he treats everyone equally.)
But look. It's not the injustice that makes you upset.
I think you just have an anger management problem.
You can't treat other staffs badly,
but just because she's your girlfriend,
you tell her to go. And you tell her to come back.
When she's upset,
she goes sulky and does a sloppy job.
It's too obvious. I tell her a few times not to do it.
That makes me lose my temper.
So I say, "If you don't want to work, just go home."
When it comes to customers,
he says he will not be kinder than he needs to be.
He said he will only do what he needs to do.
But he's being unfair to his girlfriend,
asking her for emotional labor.
You want her to emotionally support you when you need it.
But when you work, you treat her just as a regular employee.
It looks like you have the mindset of a boss.
"I am the boss."
Because I am a little older than her,
I think that's why I feel that way.
Precisely how much older are you?
(Precisely how much older are you?)
Why are you obsessed about age?
(She's embarrassed.)
My husband isn't even born.
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How much younger are you?
Tell us.
I am 25. He's 33.
- He's 8 years older. - 8 years.
He's very particular about manners.
He loves it when I pour him water...
- and when I set the table. - You pour him water?
(She pours him water and sets the table for him.)
(It's not like she's taking care of an elder.)
You pour him water?
See? She's not a regular employee.
These days,
I am long-sighted, so it's too tough.
(How dare you say that?)
It's just that you can't see. It's not like you have no hands or feet.
My knees are cold.
Then we should be long dead.
(How about us then?)
Didn't he say that he's 33?
- Yes. - Isn't he in his prime?
Even when he meets my friends, he says,
"Why don't you bow to me when you see me?"
He says things like that.
I say that when they come to my shop. If I'm in the kitchen,
I think they should come and say hi.
But they just drink, pretending not to have seen me.
So I go to them. "Hey."
"How can you not say hi to an elder?"
("How can you not say hi to an elder?")
To your girlfriend's friends?
Then do you think your girlfriend's friends are kids?
Usually, a boyfriend...
tries to impress his girlfriend's friends.
I feel like her friends are just young kids.
I don't really see them as my girlfriend's friends.
Is age very important to you?
Yes. It's important to me.
If that's the case...
when the elder lady parked her car,
(She's much older than him.)
She could've gotten acupuncture...
and bought tteokbokki on the way home.
- Acupuncture. - Right?
You should've yelled at her after greeting her properly.
"Hello, ma'am."
Then you should've yelled.
We keep bringing that story back because...
we managed to find that lady and bring her here.
Please come on out.
(Who's the lady who parked her car in the one-way street?)
(It's just a joke.)
All right.
It's just that he cares a lot about manners.
Let me ask you one last question.
With what thought did you come here?
We've been dating over six years.
- That's a long time. - We are thinking of marriage.
So I want him to curb his temper.
What if he doesn't?
(What if he doesn't change?)
(Well...)
We might split up.
(She might split up with him.)
- There is a possibility. - Yes.
(She must be serious about it.)
If your relationship with your girlfriend...
is ruined, how would you feel?
Marriage is what's driving me these days.
I am working hard...
- so that we can get married. - Right.
If working together is causing too many problems,
we should work separately.
(We should work separately.)
It sounds like you just lost your temper.
That will be our last resort.
Let's say you work separately.
You get upset at work.
When you go home, your wife is there.
You are still upset that you start nitpicking at her.
- That's it. - That's what worries me.
It's like this.
Even your staffs told you this earlier.
When you go into the kitchen...
after having a fight outside, you suddenly lash out...
at your employee when you were nice to him just before that.
- That's the biggest problem. - That's the biggest problem.
If I were your girlfriend's big brother,
father, or uncle,
I would advise her to not marry you because...
I don't think she will be happy with you.
- Same here. - I am serious.
(It's a problem that needs to be addressed before marriage.)
You have to be very careful.
When her friends heard that you are eight years older,
they must've said, "Isn't he a preachy old man?"
Then she must've said to them, "No, he's not like that."
"We are great. We have great conversations."
But when you met them, you said,
"How dare you not greet the elder properly?"
(This is the end of the world.)
It must've driven her mad.
(Nice shot.)
Please be more considerate of her.
If you will give your customers back what they give you,
you should advertise it.
"If you talk rudely to me, I will talk rudely to you too."
"I will consider that you want to talk informally."
Right.
You should just advertise it.
I've actually seen a place that had that sign.
"I will talk informally to you if you talk informally to me."
- Right. - Nobody said anything about it.
- I thought it was fun. - It will improve the atmosphere,
but you might only get three tables of customers a day.
(Watch out for the side effects.)
Tell me fast before I become unreasonable.
I think I drew the line too firmly.
I'll try my best...
not to inconvenience my girlfriend...
and those whom I work with.
But on the bright side, I'm not angry for too long.
After 2 to 3 hours, I laugh again.
That's a long time. 2 to 3 hours?
- 2 to 3 hours? - That's a long time.
- That's really long. - It is.
I want to say something to him.
An eight-year difference is not big at all.
Stop talking about age!
It's only an eight-year difference.
- I'll try my best. - How about doing damage control?
- I... - I think just venting at someone...
without any damage control is nothing but an excretion.
You should wipe yourself before coming out of the bathroom.
But they're wiping for you.
That's right. The others are wiping for him.
They are.
You didn't need to do that.
I mean...
Let's start with Cheetah. Is this a worry?
I think you should put down your authoritative attitude...
- and opinions about age. - Yes.
You should think about ways to be more understanding...
during such situations.
Think of it this way.
You two are going to get married.
Imagine that your daughter is dating someone like you.
How could you allow him to have your daughter?
I don't think this is just about talking casually.
I think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
- Let's see how many votes she got. - I'm curious.
"The Hot-Tempered Man".
(The result)
- It went over 100! - How many votes did she get?
It needs to go over 145 votes for her to win.
155 votes!
- My gosh. - Goodness.
She received many votes.
This one is called "I Want To Be Acknowledged".
(What was that face?)
Hello. I'm a male high schooler...
who's living in Geoje Island.
For the first time in my life,
I've found a natural talent of mine.
(What kind of talent is it?)
"How is it? Isn't it amazing?"
"Not really."
"Look carefully. How is it?"
"No, that won't do."
I've never gone to an art school before,
but I've realized how well I draw.
But only one person won't acknowledge me.
It's my dad.
Am I bad at drawing, you ask?
"My gosh, you're amazing. Are you a genius?"
"Even as an art teacher myself,"
"you should appear..."
"on television for your talent."
Everyone else compliments me on my drawing ability,
but not my dad.
I was so frustrated that I won an award and showed it to him.
"Dad, I received an award! Didn't I do well?"
"That's enough. Put it away."
"There's nothing you're capable of doing. Put that away!"
He even threw my drawing right in front of me.
(His father threw his drawing.)
(Is he really his dad?)
Please help my dad...
to acknowledge me.
(Please acknowledge me, Dad.)
So Won, I'm sure you can relate.
- You wanted to be acknowledged. - Most definitely.
I really wanted to.
I have two siblings,
and they were both very studious. But I wasn't.
But since I knew I was bad,
I didn't want others to tell me that.
- So I missed school. - I see.
That's why I'm studying now.
Because imagining my father finally...
acknowledging me makes me feel so good.
- Does your father watch this show? - Of course.
No wonder you were so talkative today.
I see. I finally get it now.
All this time, I kept wanting you to stop talking.
This was a story of a son who wants to be acknowledged by his dad.
Please come on out!
(Who is this son who wants to be acknowledged by his dad?)
(Excited)
(Choi Sung Joon)
Please introduce yourself loud and clear.
- Introduce yourself. - Introduce myself?
- Anything about myself? - Introduce yourself.
- He's tense. - Introduce yourself.
Okay. I'll be 18 years soon.
My name is Choi Sung Joon.
That's great. Welcome, Sung Joon.
- Good luck. - Thank you.
All right. Your dad...
Are you very nervous?
I'm doing okay.
- When I'm nervous, I sweat. - No?
But you're not sweating right now.
- No. - I see.
- I'm okay. - He's okay.
He talks like a grown man.
Are you really 18?
- I am. - He is.
- I am 18 years old. - He's 18.
(He's adorable.)
You came all the way here just to be acknowledged by your dad?
Yes. Since March of 2018,
- That's last year. - I started drawing.
- It's only been a year. - Yes.
I started drawing...
urban and interior design related drawings.
I watched videos on them and drew my first drawing, right?
- Right. - What?
- Right? - Yes.
- That's right. - It's right.
- He's right. - Yes.
- Yes. - I drew a drawing.
- I know. - You startled me.
I'm sorry.
I showed my completed drawing to my dad.
But he said, "Is this all you can do?"
"Take that with you."
"Take that away."
- And then, he threw it. - My gosh.
How did it feel when he threw it?
I didn't feel so great. I was mad.
What kinds of drawings do you draw?
They're usually urban or interior design related.
I sometimes draw studios like this.
- I draw buildings too. - He draws interiors...
- like this. - Yes.
Why did you suddenly start drawing?
I was just bored.
- You were bored? - Yes, I was.
You should be studying.
Studying...
(Why is he sighing?)
I get it. I totally got that.
- I'm done for. - How does it feel to draw?
Is it fun to draw?
I can see what I'm capable of...
and find my own talent, so it's fun.
So you draw urban drawings. How did it feel...
- to come to Seoul? - Here?
- How was it? - It was exactly the same.
- What? - This was the world I wanted.
The designs that I've come up with align with this region.
I'm so curious.
Is your father against...
your drawing anything at all?
- I'm curious too. - In the past,
he wasn't against everything.
He acknowledged drawings for entrance examinations.
He pushed me towards that.
Since he needs to go to college, I think that's why his father...
- nudged him towards that. - Yes.
My dad is against my drawings...
and only likes entrance examination ones, and my talent is...
What am I saying?
So he doesn't acknowledge the urban drawings...
- that you draw... - Right.
and only acknowledge the entrance examination drawings?
Yes.
(He's unique.)
Have you ever thought that...
he really thinks you're not talented?
I don't think that was ever the case.
Your father might have high expectations for you.
- But when my friends see them, - Right.
they say that it's crazy and that I'm a genius.
- "He's a genius!" - "This is awesome!"
- "He's a true genius!" - They said that.
- My teacher also said that. - Your teacher did?
- Yes. - What did your art teacher say?
My teacher saw my drawings and said I should appear...
on television.
- "You need to go on TV." - "You need to appear..."
- "on TV." - Really?
- Your teacher said that? - That's what your teacher said?
- He sounded like a robot. - I know.
I thought he was mimicking a robot.
Now, it's time to meet his father.
Hello, sir.
- Hello. - Hello.
Do you understand his worry?
No, I don't.
Okay, then.
"No, I don't."
That'll be all for today.
- That's not right. - It's not a worry for his father.
(This is like a sitcom.)
Is it because you think that he's not talented?
To be honest, I don't like his drawings.
- You don't like them? - You don't?
He seems uninterested as well.
It's hard to understand them.
They make me dizzy. They don't look like drawings.
But apart from whether he draws well or not,
as your son,
- you could compliment him. - Right.
You could...
- Encourage him. - encourage...
- and compliment him. - I'm not good at complimenting.
(He's very brazen.)
- I'm not good... - My goodness.
at complimenting.
(Please Dad.)
Do you think there's anything else...
- Nothing at all. - he's good at?
(He's curt.)
(What?)
He replied even before you were done asking.
- My goodness. - You could've...
- waited a bit longer. - Poor him.
Let's check out his drawings first.
- I'm curious. - Let's see.
- I'm so curious. - Me too.
(Everyone's impressed.)
- He's very talented. - He's good.
- Isn't it nice? - He should be on TV!
I didn't even base it off anything.
- My goodness. - I only used my imagination.
(Everyone cheers for him.)
(Good job.)
- You're really good. - Yes.
- My gosh. - You're really talented.
We have more. Let's see.
- My gosh. - I used my imagination.
- You just imagined it? - This is a futuristic city.
- My goodness. - I have my own stories for them.
- That is awesome. - He's made up stories for them.
It's a futuristic city.
I didn't sketch it beforehand.
- Is that a dinosaur? - I didn't base it off anything.
Look at that. Where is that?
I just imagined it.
I didn't even sketch it beforehand. I just drew them with pens.
- Pens? - You didn't use pencils?
- You used pens? - You didn't erase anything then.
- Yes. - He just imagined it.
How long does it take?
That took two weeks. I drew it at school.
- You just imagined it? - Yes, completely.
- That's amazing. - It was all me.
It seems like...
he has great space perception.
Looking at the ratios of the buildings and such...
Are you still unhappy?
Yes, I still think the same.
Even though everyone else likes them?
Have you learned how to draw before?
No, I haven't.
Doesn't he have talent?
His facial expression and words tell me...
he is filled to the brim with confidence.
"Although my drawings are pretty good,"
"my dad won't recognize that."
It was my dream to be a comic artist.
- Then you would be a good judge. - You should know.
Every shape was different.
- There were windows and ladders. - That's right.
His drawings are quite detailed.
I could see that his drawings are quite detailed.
When he said he drew them with a pen,
I got chills.
- He is really cool. - He is a genius.
I still don't see...
what is great about them.
Do you only like the countryside?
(Do you hate the city?)
Do you need your dad's recognition?
I know it will give you strength, but...
It will give me strength.
I gain strength from my dad's compliments.
Even when everyone else compliments me,
my dad doesn't say a word.
If Dad gives me a thumbs up,
I will gain enough strength to do anything.
You want your dad to give you a thumbs up.
Why don't you do it for your son?
- Seriously. - He has high standards.
A family member is here.
Hello, I Sung Joon's uncle.
- Welcome. - Welcome.
Do you happen to study classical music?
(He looks like he mastered the symphony.)
(He looks like an artist.)
Do you understand Sung Joon's worry?
As you can see, his drawings are exceptional.
But his dad goes, "This is no good."
He is stingy with compliments.
He works in shipbuilding.
- Shipbuilding. - Yes.
Since shipbuilding industry is in a slump,
- there aren't many jobs. - That's right.
He doesn't have good means to provide...
for Sung Joon.
Even if Sung Joon has a talent,
he doesn't have a clear goal.
That's why his dad is frustrated.
In a month, how much do you spend on Sung Joon?
I spend about 600 months.
The shipbuilding industry has ups and downs.
When the economy is bad, I make less than 2,000 dollars.
Thus, I want Sung Joon to focus on his studies...
and enter the university.
Do you feel like your son doesn't study hard?
Yes. He sits on the sofa...
and plays games on his phone.
He has a lot of interest in speakers.
At first, he bought a 200-dollar speaker.
Then he bought a better one for 600 dollars.
He currently has his eyes on another model.
- By any chance... - Does he like speakers?
Yes, he does.
Has he stolen money from your wallet?
No, he hasn't.
- He bought them with his allowance. - What?
He bought them with his allowance.
Speakers are a hobby of mine...
that relieves my stress.
I love to listen...
to the bass and music.
- He is sensitive. - That's right.
- He has emotions and senses... - He has sentimentality.
- of an artist. - That's right.
- He seems that way. - Me too.
If you want recognition from your dad,
you shouldn't play games all day at home.
Then your dad would be frustrated.
It's a misunderstanding.
- You know what Minecraft is, right? - Yes.
I build using that game.
That game involves planning a city.
That's right. Constructing buildings with that game...
really improved my drawing skills.
It helped me a lot.
It's a part of my work.
Why didn't you tell your dad that it helps?
I did tell him,
but he complained about how I play games until the end.
- Seriously. - I see.
"Go away. Your drawings look all the same."
"You just need to get good grades and go to a nice university."
- I see. - He scolded me.
He is focused on that idea.
(He doesn't believe my words and gets angry.)
(He is stern.)
Are there any hardships about attending...
an art academy?
There are many hardships.
- Tell us about them. - What are your hardships?
Your dad should know.
My drawings are...
my artistic expressions.
The art I learn to get into a university involves...
copying an image like a camera.
It makes no sense I need to learn something like that.
Even if it doesn't suit you,
you should persevere to enter a university.
Don't you want to study properly with better teachers?
I tried studying.
I was at the very bottom,
but I got my scores from Grade 8 to Grade 5.
- Then you have potentials. - That's amazing.
- That's impressive. - If you study a bit more...
He is learning the kind of art you want,
you should give him compliments...
so that he can gain energy and do better.
It makes me feel bad for Sung Joon,
but I can't do it.
There is nothing I can do about it.
Do you mean you can't say something like that?
- Compliments. - Do you mean you can't give...
- compliments? - Even if I try...
You must have received compliments.
You must have received them from your wife.
I haven't received many compliments.
(I see.)
Since he hasn't received many compliments,
he finds it hard to do it for his son.
(Do you hate my drawings that much?)
Your dad is stingy with compliments.
Perhaps you should be more understanding.
When my younger brother does something well,
he gets showered with compliments.
- Your younger brother gets them. - Yes.
- What are they about? - He gets compliments...
when he does a good job with his studies or sports.
When he does exceptionally well, he gets a thumbs up.
- What? A thumbs up? - A thumbs up.
Your younger brother gets a thumbs up.
He is capable of giving compliments.
- I know. - Have you ever gotten it?
Dad is expressive to him.
Sung Joon, have you ever gotten it?
- Have you gotten a thumbs up? - No. Never.
Never?
Your younger brother gets a thumbs up.
My younger brother looks down on me.
When I show him my drawings, he goes,
"These are trash."
(These are trash.)
(Shocked)
"Even an elementary schooler can do them."
"You must be the worst artist."
Does he talk to you so flippantly?
Yes, he does. He calls me by my name.
No matter what I say, he won't call me "Big brother".
- That's wrong. - He shouldn't do that.
- Sung Joon is older. - That's wrong.
This is the boy who gets thumbs up from his dad.
(Let's meet Sung Joon's brother.)
Let's meet Sung Joon's brother. Hello.
Hello.
Do you remember getting a thumbs up?
I received compliments when I did well on a test.
He also complimented me...
when I received an award for jumping ropes well.
Did he go, "Good job"?
- Would you show us? - What does your dad do?
"Good job."
The robotic acting runs in the family.
(Laughing)
"Good job."
What do you think about your brother's drawing skills?
He is good,
but he always asks if he is good.
It's bothersome and annoying.
He told you that you are good.
- Stop asking him. - He said it once.
He never said I am good.
He never said it.
Did you pretend to look down on his drawing skills...
because you were annoyed?
Yes, I did.
He is good.
(That's how he really feels.)
- He says you are good. - That's good.
(What is up with him?)
"What is up with him?"
"This isn't what I imagined."
(The two brothers in puberty had a miscommunication.)
(I mean my words.)
I am curious about something.
Why do you speak so flippantly to your older brother?
When Mom gives him a task,
he makes me do it.
He doesn't act like an older brother.
- You know you are in the wrong. - Yes.
(So you know you are in the wrong.)
Have you apologized to him?
- No. - I bet he hasn't done that.
That's right.
(Why are you so confident?)
Is there anything you want from your brother?
I want him to make friends and hang out with them outside.
Does he only draw in the house?
- Yes. - He doesn't go outside.
Yes.
During breaks, he goes out once or twice a week.
That's how often he goes out.
After holing up in his room to draw,
he would emerge one day. "Sung Joon came out! No way!"
"How is my drawing?"
(It's an annoying thought.)
(Look at the younger brother's face.)
Do you struggle...
to make friends at school?
Drawing is more fun than hanging out with friends.
He really likes to draw.
But you don't have any problems.
In middle school, I struggled a lot.
My classmates kicked me and beat me up.
I suffered from violence.
It was really hard.
It must have been hard.
Did you receive consolation...
from drawing?
It helped a lot.
Drawing healed me a lot.
(It gave me consolation.)
Sir, did you know Sung Joon was bullied...
in middle school?
Yes. Sung Joon is weak...
and nice. He is slow in many things...
such as studies.
It must have been very hard to watch him.
Yes, it was very hard.
But you treat your sons differently.
I do it so that Sung Joon will do better.
He shouldn't take it that way.
He needs to set his mind and see things through.
My wife and I once sent him to English and math academies.
After a few days,
he complained that he doesn't understand...
and quit.
It frustrates me. How will he survive...
when he is like that?
What were you thinking when you quit the academies?
I had no confidence. I thought, "I can't do this."
I was struggling in school back then.
Instead of trying to understand me,
Dad continued to urge me to study. I was so angry...
that I talked back to Dad really badly.
To your dad? What did you say?
I swore.
(It was more than a rebellion.)
- I swore. - To your dad?
(He shouldn't be so confident about it.)
I hated him that much.
My heart ached so much...
that I cried by myself.
Of course.
- You feel like the world collapsed. - That's right.
(Dad.)
I had never done that to my parents.
When I heard my son swear at me,
I felt like the sky was falling.
Of course.
We need to make this clear before we move on.
- Even if you were stressed out, - That's right.
it's wrong...
- to swear at your parents. - It's really wrong.
- That's right. - The stress from school...
- shouldn't be taken out at home. - Don't ever do that.
The stress from the hall...
shouldn't be taken out in the kitchen.
- That's always the problem. - That's right.
Let's use this opportunity to do what must be done.
Apologize to your dad sincerely.
- Shall I kneel? I will kneel. - Go ahead.
Go ahead.
- Yes. You were in the wrong. - You were in the wrong.
- Apologize to your dad. - Go ahead.
I am sorry.
(I am sorry.)
I am truly sorry.
I will make sure it never happens again.
- I am sorry. - Okay.
Good job.
You saw your brother apologize to your dad, right?
- Don't talk to him so flippantly. - You should apologize...
to Sung Joon.
I am sorry I talked to you so flippantly.
(Cringing)
- They are a family... - They...
- of a few words. - They tried.
Sung Joon wants to receive his dad's recognition and love.
I know how he feels.
I am not good at expressing myself,
but I make an effort to change.
Do you do that?
- When? - When I meet my coworkers,
I show them the pictures of my son's drawings.
Their praises satisfy me.
(The corners of his mouth turn up in a smile.)
Do you show Sung Joon's drawings to your acquaintances?
Yes.
- You show them. - Did you know that?
No, I didn't.
- I am shocked. - He is shocked.
I feel like he changed 180 degrees.
An acquaintance who saw him brag about Sung Joon is here.
He is a man of few words,
but he saved his son's drawing as the KakaoTalk profile picture.
- The profile picture? - Yes.
When I tell him that it's a nice drawing,
he gets a bit embarrassed.
It shows on his face.
- The corners of his mouth turn up. - Yes.
What kind of drawing was it? Was it for the university exam?
Was it a drawing of the city?
- It was for the university exam - A drawing of the city came first.
I am not sure.
Please say there was a drawing of the city.
(He is still confused.)
Sir, I think this is what you are doing.
"This is what art is."
"This is what mathematics is."
I think you are trying to put your son into that box.
From what we have seen,
your son has an incredible talent that has yet to be defined.
- He does. - As a parent,
you should find different ways...
he can contribute to the society with his talent.
The production crew told us...
he could become a motion graphic designer.
He could work with computer graphics.
He could work with illustration, design,
urban planning, and animation.
There are many directions he could take.
Three-dimensional works have a fine prospect.
What do you think? Aren't you intrigued?
That's right.
- He smiled. - Sung Joon has a great talent.
I am worried because he has bad grades.
- Sir. - But he has a special talent.
His talent is oozing out.
If you provide him with recognition, compliments, and encouragement,
- he will pave his own path... - That's right.
like a bulldozer...
to do what he likes.
Give him compliments and encouragement.
- A thumbs up. - And most importantly,
give him a thumbs up. Give him recognition.
(Dad, how are my drawings?)
You are doing a good job.
I always feel apologetic.
From now on, I will compliment you often.
You deserve a thumbs up.
I love you, Sung Joon.
(He is highly satisfied.)
Did you see him speak his mind confidently...
- before a big crowd? - Yes, I did.
Did you also see him confidently reveal...
he swore at his dad?
Yes, I did.
He won't make the same mistake again.
How many thumbs up does he deserve?
He deserves 10 thumbs up.
(Take my thumbs up.)
Thumbs up, thumbs up, thumbs up, thumbs up.
(That's a lot.)
I have one more question.
How was his drawing of the city?
Thumbs up.
(Good job, my son. Thumbs up.)
High five!
(Compliments and encouragement...)
(will improve Sung Joon's skills and the father-son relationship.)
I was always looked down on by Dad.
His compliments gave me energy,
so I will get good grades. I will try hard...
to enter a good university.
- Thumbs up. - He gave you a thumbs up.
He gave you another one.
All right.
(Good luck, my son.)
Let's see what the guests think. Y, you can go first.
- Okay. - I think it's a worry.
When I was a trainee,
I didn't have my dad's recognition.
After I gave the debut performance...
and comeback performance, he began to recognize me.
- It motivated me to work hard. - That's right.
I don't think it's a worry.
They talked things out and Sung Joon got a thumbs up,
so there isn't a worry.
I don't think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4,
- three, - Many people are voting.
- 2, 1. - Time's up.
"I Want To Be Acknowledged". Show us the result.
The last digit is revealed.
All right. Did the worry get over 100 votes?
(What will be the result?)
- Wow. - 66 votes.
(66 votes)
Thus,
"The Hot-Tempered Man" wins this week.
("The Hot-Tempered Man" wins.)
The winner will receive a cash prize. Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free,
Hello will continue to counsel you.
Thank you.
("Spring Again" by Golden Child)